Today my girlfriend recommends to me to make a list. I have made lists and plans before, for work, career, and life goals. I had gone so far as to see a life coach. He also recommended that I create a list. He recommended for me to envision the life I want, complete, then to create a plan for me, to help complete the items on the list and create the life I want, inclusive of a boyfriend.
I always make a life plan for year after year acheivements. However, each time, when I get to the part of adding my boyfriend, I get stuck. I think, this is silly. I toggle between the idea of writing this boyfriend into my plan. I am not certain whether if I create this ideal man, whether he would exist. Worst, ihe exists, would he want me?
Most of the time, I dont include this ficticious boyfriend in my final plans. Part of the reason I do this is because I know I can control me, and what I do; I cannot control someone else.
And so, here I am. My marine, though out of the service, continues to engulf himself in work, so as to avoid a committed relationship. I am, four yearsolder and wiser. I started dating and find that dating as an adult is very different from dating as a your woman.
After attending to a few coffee dates and finding that the men wanted to kiss me and grope me too soon. I am at a point that I am discouraged. I dont want to date. Although, at the same time, I dont want to close myself off. I cant wait any longer for this marine to ground himself. So, I date. I continue to date and offer my energy to the universe. I put myself out there.
At the same time, I continue to enjoy the life I created. A home, family, close friends, financial secureness, retirement planning. I travel, I teach, I live. I think, just for fun, I will create my list.
This future man, who will come to me, will be handsome, fit, take great care of himself, not give in to excessive drink or food. He will enjoy the outdoors and love to travel. He will want to spend time with friends, barbequing at home, sight seeing, or just sitting in the park or riing at the beach, holding my hand, spending time with me. He will respect my faith and attend church with me from time to time. He will be encouraging and listen to my day, listen to my heart, and he will enjoy spending time doing things with me. He will beaccomplished. He will have aheart for service to others. He will be patient with me. He will be ready for relationship, welcoming to come into my wonderful world and I will come into his.
That is my list. I am sticking to it.