Monday, March 4, 2013

What Luck!

As luck would have it, my marine called me after two months of silence.  He tells me that he has been very busy with his new assignment that has him traveling quite a bit, creating scenarios for training.  He also shared that he will be appointed to a very good position oversees.  I was happy to hear from him as I missed his friendship.  During our conversation ( you know this thought plagued me) I couldn't help but think, ' what could lead someone to not contact me in two months?'  I asked him, " What did I do last time I saw you, to cause you to not want to talk to me in two months?"

He told me that when he came to visit, I was drunk.  He reminded me that wine and me don't mix very well. He said that I dropped his motorcycle and now he has to pay$3,000 to fix it.  He said that he did not talk to me afterward because he was upset and needed time to cool off.  Plus his work had him busy and traveling last minute.   I was shocked at myself and felt ashamed for what I did.  I think if someone would have done that to me, I wouldn't talk to them either.   He tells me,it is water under the bridge, whats done is done.

He made every attempt to connect with me, however, since he has to drive an hour and a half to see me, we couldn't make our schedules work to make it happen.  We agreed to meet, but shortly after we talked, he was called in to deploy.  As luck would have it, that day at work I was able to resolve two big problems.  One of the problems was to negotiate a extension for an employee. The employee was worried about getting dismissed if she didn't perform in 30 days.  I negotiated 60 days for her.  The second problem came later in the evening as I was walking out of my office.  A coworker came in to remind me that we haven't had bible study in awhile.  He shared that he has been going through trials.  He said that his wife left the home and announced that she wants a divorce.  He was troubled, he said he realizes he has not been showing her he loves her and that he hasn't been a good husband.  He talked on and I listened.  He was not sure how to behave.  He said that she wants a divorce, so he doesn't know what to do.  I asked him a simple question" are you divorced yet?"  He responded "No".  I commented, " So today, you are still married? Today you are still her husband?"  He said " Yes". So I told him, " My recommendation to you is to go and be her husband.  Go act like her husband and love her.  Don't wait, don't question, just go do it.  You aren't divorced yet, so don't act like you are and instead go be her husband 100 %".  With that and a prayer, he went off to comfort his wife.  At the end of the day, I know that although I wasn't able to be with a person I adore, at the very least I was used to encourage and assure two people who really needed it.  Oh yes, and I did congratulate my marine on his accomplishments.  He has sacrificed allot to be where he is.

I am teaching yoga now, several times a week.  This doesn't leave much time for socializing outside of my usual groups of people, church, work, family and yoga.  The question did arise " Have you been with anyone else?" The answer for both of us was"NO".  My life is mostly surrounded by girlfriends and family.  As a result, I don't have the opportunity to sleep around.  (Boohoo! LOL) Apparently, he has been very busy and hasn't either.

My friends ask me,if he asks you to go with him oversees to live, what will you do?   A big part of me says I would go.  I would love the opportunity to be closer to him and to be in Southeast Asia.  I love Asian foods and customs.  I would enjoy practicing yoga there and deepening my practice.  I think I would be able to start some type of business or interests out there to help people.  I think it would be a great opportunity for me, a good experience.  That said, there are some things that need to be worked out before that happens.  So, first, I need to see him.  Then, we need to talk about some of these things.  So to answer my friends, I say, I keep my options open.  Today is Monday.  He is not here and I need to get to work.  That is all that is on my mind right now.    Stay tuned. 

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